One way to initiate change is in your INNER DIALOG. You’ll need to identify and eliminate negative talk and replace them with positive affirmations when the inner dialog pops in. Take the affirmation "I will meet and enjoy meeting new people." It may sound corny to your mind gate meter, but after keeping that dialog up you’ll notice little things changing. Without thinking, your personality is changing. When it happens you’ll realize an amazing feeling. The REAL deal is actually getting to a point where you BELIEVE it… so you can start actually DOING it.|
The way you speak and your inner dialog will have a direct effect on your dating life. If you say, "I hope I’ll impress a girl" or "I hope my dating skill improves" nothing is going to change. You’ve heard it said, "How do you get to Carnegie Hall? The answer lies in practice, practice, and practice."
If you do not have faith in yourself, nobody is going to have faith in you. Change comes from doing. You got to get out there and practice.
.•: I hope my attraction and report skill is going to improve.
.•: I am going to try to get more dates.
.•: I keep taking advice but nothing seems to help.
.•: I should have had a better opening line the first nine.
.•: I would have done better the first time if only I had my lucky wingman with me.
.•: I could have done better on the try if only I did forget my opening line. It threw off my game.
.•: I should be dating at least a few women by now.
Using the game of golf as an example, Jack Nicklaus said, "Confidence is the golfer’s greatest weapon." Meg Mallon, Women’s Open champion said: "It’s confidence, confidence, confidence, confidence."
One can not succeed at being pretty good or the very best unless they practice. Lee Trevino said if you practice enough and get tremendous amount of confidence, and that’s where confidence comes from.
A good game comes from practice. If you practice, you have confidence. You have confidence because you’ve practiced. Not only will you withstand pressure situations; you’ll have a greater perspective on the entire dating game.